Another gem: “After menopause, sex will hurt and that’s just how it is.” Wrong again. Pain is a signal, not a sentence. Davina points out that if your partner ignores your discomfort, they’re not a lover—they’re a lawnmower with poor steering.
The real fix? Pelvic floor therapy. It sounds about as fun as filing taxes, but it’s basically physio for your downstairs muscles. A few exercises can turn the Sahara back into a slightly damp meadow. Plus, it’s a great excuse to spend ten minutes a day doing Kegels while binge-watching Bridgerton.
And let’s not forget vaginal estrogen—a tiny, non-scary dose that makes tissues thick and happy. It’s not “cheating.” It’s like water for a thirsty plant. Your vagina just wants a drink.
The “Your Partner Will Lose Interest” Lie
This one is designed to make you panic-buy anti-aging creams. Davina says, “If your partner loses interest because your hormone levels change, they were interested in your hormones, not you.” Ouch, but true.
Davina McCall: Sex, Myths and the Menopause: What time documentary is
In reality, many couples report better sex after menopause because they finally talk about what they want. The myth that men only want “young” sex is a script from a bad sitcom. Real intimacy evolves—it gets deeper, slower, and honestly, more creative.
One surprising fact: women over 50 report having more orgasms than their younger selves. Why? Less performance anxiety, more “I know what I like.” It’s like upgrading from a bicycle with training wheels to a motorboat you control.
