Not every “tradition” is a treasure. That annual screaming match about who carves the turkey? Not a keeper. Sit down with your crew—or just bribe them with snacks—and ask: “What makes us laugh, cry, or roll our eyes in the best way?”
It might be something tiny, like my friend’s family “Taco Tuesday Blessing” (yes, they pray to the taco gods). Or it could be the huge, loud, messy game of charades after Thanksgiving pie. Focus on the spark, not the stress. If it costs you your sanity, ditch it or tweak it.
Pro tip: If no one remembers why you do something—like wearing a pickle costume every New Year’s Eve—keep it anyway. Mystery traditions are the best.
Step Two: Make It Low-Pressure and Ridiculously Easy
Preserving a tradition shouldn’t feel like a part-time job. You know what kills joy? A five-page checklist for “Grandma’s Annual Pancake Flipping Ceremony.” Simplify until it’s almost too simple. For example, instead of a full-on feast, just share one specific cookie recipe once a year.
Use technology for good, not evil. Start a family text chain called “The Great Pancake Flipping Council” and share photos or silly captions. The goal is connection, not perfection. One year, my sister and I just sent each other voice memos of us singing our grandma’s favorite song—horribly off-key—and it became our new tradition.
Remember: A tradition that makes you sweat is a chore. A tradition that makes you snort-laugh is a legacy.
An Inside Look At Some Of The Crown's Annual Traditions And Customs
